F You Very Much: Understanding the Culture of Rudeness--and What We Can Do About It

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by Danny Wallace

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"Deliciously hilarious. If you care about people and enjoy a good laugh, I politely encourage you to read this book. Immediately." -- Adam Grant, bestselling author of  Originals From the brilliant comedic mind behind the hit movie  Yes Man , a hilarious and pitch-perfect look at the rudeness that's all around us -- where it comes from, how it affects us, and what we can do about it You're not just imagining it: People are getting more and more rude - from cutting in line, gabbing on their phones and clipping their nails on public transportation, to hurling epithets on Twitter and in real life (including a certain President who does both). And the worst part is that it's contagious, leading reasonably courteous people to stoop to new lows in order to respond to the ever-coarsening encounters we face every day. In this engaging and illuminating new book, bestselling author and all-around curious guy Danny Wallace looks at the reasons behind the rudeness, and what we can do to stop it. His quest to stop the madness includes interviews with neuroscientists, psychologists, NASA scientists, politicians, and other experts. He joins a Radical Honesty group, talks to LA drivers about road rage, and confronts his own online troll in a pub--all to better understand the scourge that's turning normal people into bullies, tantruming toddlers, trolls, and other types of everyday monsters. Want to be part of the solution? Let Danny Wallace be your smart and funny guide. "A meaty cry for human decency, wrapped in a deliciously hilarious hot dog bun. I plan to read it again and then force-feed it to my neighbor, my mother, and my college roommate. If you care about people and enjoy a good laugh, I politely encourage you to read this book. Immediately." -- Adam Grant, bestselling author of Originals "A brilliant book" -- Jon Ronson, bestselling author of The Psychopath Test and Men Who Stare at Goats "A very funny and wise book about the blatant rudeness that surrounds us. Danny Wallace in top form." -- Matt Haig, author of Reasons to Stay Alive "An astute, easily digestible guide to not being a jerk." --Kirkus “Danny Wallace, author, actor, and comedian, wrote the rudeness manifesto itself.” —VICE.com "His [Danny Wallace’s] research on the psychology of rudeness can give us key insights as to what's going on right now and what we can do to become more empathetic." —Psychology Today Danny Wallace is an award-winning author, filmmaker, comedian, actor, and television and  radio host. His previous books include Yes Man (made into the Jim Carrey movie of the same name), Friends Like These , and Awkward Situations for Men .   Introduction In 2015, after 27‑year-old Omar Hussain left his job at a Morrisons supermarket in Buckinghamshire and fled the United Kingdom to join the radical terrorist jihadist group ISIS, he was extraordinarily disap­pointed to find out how rude they all were.   We all get annoyed at our colleagues from time to time, but for Omar Hussain the everyday rudeness displayed by those simultane­ously plotting to bring down the very tenets of Western civilization was a step too far.   In a blog he wrote in his first few months in the desert, he com­plained in no uncertain terms about the “bad manners” of his fellow radicalized death-cult militants.   Under a series of numbered headings on Tumblr, the bearded and bespectacled Hussain launched a blistering attack on Arab adminis­trative skills.   “There is no queue in any of their offices,” wrote the furious Briton. “You could be waiting in line for half an hour and then another Arab would come and push in the queue and go straight in.”   When serving his peers dinner after a long day of terrorist training in the desert, Omar was shocked to be “pounced upon by everyone in the room. I therefore refused to give anyone food until every single one of them was sitting down in their seats. Unfortunately, I had to treat them like primary school students.”   Poor Omar just hadn’t known what he was letting himself in for. In subsequent blogs and tweets, you can tell he was becoming with­drawn. He talks of loneliness; he has trouble peeling potatoes; he spends his free time trying to find chocolates or feeding a local cat called Lucy.   What Omar perceived as the rudeness of others really affected him: this kind of behavior was not what he signed up to ISIS for, and it was wearing him down.   It only got worse.   “In the West, it is common knowledge to walk out of a room wearing the same pair of shoes that you wore while entering the room. Nay, it is common sense!” he wrote at one point, and you know some­one’s annoyed when they use words like nay. “However, here in Sham, our Syrian brothers [. . .] believe that everyone can wear each other’s footwear. Sometimes you would enter a building and when leaving, you would see the person with your shoes walking 100 yards ahead of you and it can be quite irritating.”

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