Learn to Control Your Anger and Improve Relationships Is the stress of life getting you mad? It’s time for you to have difficult conversations with yourself and with those around you to overcome your anger. Don't let anger run your life. We all have issues that weigh heavily in our lives. Living in constant conflict isn’t something that you were destined for. If anger is something that you’ve been having a hard time controlling, then this is the book for you. Judy Ford crafted this book to provide you with practical and reliable tips to help guide you on your journey from anger to peace. Anger has its benefits. Throughout time anger has been something that people have wrestled with, and feelings of shame and guilt frequently tend to follow. But what if anger can be used to help you communicate better in your everyday relationships? Getting Over Getting Mad highlights all the places anger can occur―with self, with partners, with children and with work colleagues. Once you identify the anger you can use the tools in this book to help you talk through that anger. Personal growth will come. When you’re feeling stressed or overwhelmed, holding onto and lashing out in anger doesn’t help those already difficult situations. Judy Ford teaches us that when we choose to recognize our anger and observe (not attack) our feelings, we can free ourselves from responding negatively. We can then improve our communication with those around us. Getting Over Getting Mad can help you take steps toward: Living outside of anger - Communicating effectively in the relationships that mean the most to you - Reducing your stress If you enjoyed books like Mindfulness for Anger Management , The Cow in the Parking Lot, or Good and Angry, then you should read Getting Over Getting Mad. With over half a million copies of her books in print, Judy Ford, M.S.W. is the bestselling author of Conari's Wonderful Ways books, which include Wonderful Ways to Love a Teen , Wonderful Ways to Love a Child , Wonderful Ways to Be a Family , Wonderful Ways to Love a Grandchild , and Wonderful Ways to Be a Stepparent . Coauthor with her daughter Amanda of Between Mother & Daughter , she lives in Washington state. getting Over getting Mad Positive Ways to Manage Anger in Your Most Important Relationships By Judy Ford Red Wheel/Weiser, LLC Copyright © 2001 Judy Ford All rights reserved. ISBN: 978-1-57324-555-5 Contents Preface, "Only Dogs Get Mad"I Have Plenty to Be Mad About—And So Do You!Part 1 In the Presence of YourselfFrown FreelyUncover the HurtGive Yourself Permission to Be HumanSee Anger as a BlessingBe Courageous about Your ImperfectionsFocus on Your True NatureTake Care of YourselfGet to Know the Little Devil WithinMove Out of UproarLearn Spiritual Lessons from AngerWalk the Higher RoadFind the FearTake Grudges to the DumpConfess Your AngerBeat a Drum, Play a Piano, DanceCryShout Outside, Scream in the ShowerHowl at the MoonRun Around the BlockSit on the GroundLie on Your BackKick and Make a NoiseLook to the Sky, Pray for DirectionSay "Yes" and "No" FrequentlySay Good-bye to BaggageBring on ForgivenessSelect an Antidote to AngerJoin the Secret Society of Satisfied SoulsPart 2 In the Presence of Your SweetheartSee Relationships as a Great SchoolLearn from Arguing with Your PartnerRecognize the Value of AngerPin the Blame on the DonkeyCreate a Safety ZoneIntend to Stay ConnectedUse the Practical ApproachGive Yourself and Your Loved One FreedomWatch Out for Time BombsThrow Out Old PatternsMaster Conflict, Not Your PartnerPauseWork It Through on Your Own FirstMaster TimingSeek a Joint PerspectiveAdmit ItAvoid RevengeLighten UpMove to Easy StreetTurn Arguments into Intimate DialogueUse Magical PhrasesExperience the Contentment of Letting GoSet Each Other StraightApologizeForgive When It's TimeBask in the Thrill of Making UpPart 3 In the Presence of ChildrenAcknowledge When Your Child Is Mad about SomethingBe a Feeling DetectiveTeach Talking versus BitingKnow That What You Say Does MatterSay "Yes" to Talking, "No" to PunchingRecognize the Spectrum of AngerStop the Ripple EffectRemove Harmful ShameDeal with Your Child DirectlyListen to Your Child's ComplaintsFirst Give UnderstandingRespond to "I Hate You"Stay CloseAcknowledge GriefThrow Rocks in Water, Throw a Ball, Play Kick the CanHammer NailsPaint a Mad PictureBe Smarter Than the BulliesCoach and Check BackTake Five Steps to a Face-Saving DialogueBe Aware That Children Are WatchingRecognize Warning SignsUse Talking SticksTake a Time Out, Take a Time InPledge to Do No HarmStay Open to a Fresh PerspectivePart 4 In the Presence of ColleaguesLearn Positive Self-AssertionPay Attention to Your NeedsFind Meaning in Your WorkLead with GentlenessRespondUse Neutral and De-escalating LanguagePractice Good MannersWatch Your AttitudeStick Up for YourselfBe DeterminedClarify the ConflictDon't Be Outraged, Be OutrageousStay with the DiscomfortGet Over Road RageIdentify Your Hot