Break Free from Unfulfilling Relationship Patterns Psychotherapist Dr. Marni Feuerman offers profound and insightful advice for women who find themselves in painful and unsatisfying relationships or dating experiences again and again. She offers explanations and solutions for why we attract and accept poor treatment, experience a lack of emotional connection from romantic partners, and often reject the good ones. Based on the science of love, neurobiology, and attachment theory, as well as Dr. Feuerman’s clinical experience, Ghosted and Breadcrumbed provides expert guidance to help you recognize why you get stuck and how to change these patterns for good. Her practical advice, illustrated by real-life examples, will teach you how to spot and exit these situations and create healthy relationships that provide the love, support, and emotional connection you deserve. “ Ghosted and Breadcrumbed clearly and expertly guides women out of painful relationships with unavailable men and into the joys of a healthy relationship. If you are in a relationship with a married man or a man who is avoiding a deeper commitment, this is the book for you!” — Lonnie Barbach, PhD, cocreator of the Happy Couple app and coauthor of Going the Distance “ Ghosted and Breadcrumbed is a must-read for women who unwittingly fall for unavailable men and want to create happy, healthy relationships. Dr. Feuerman draws on her expertise as a marriage and family therapist to provide valuable insights to help women break free of a pattern of dysfunctional relationships once and for all. She’s created a practical and compassionate guide, full of case studies and effective strategies to help women better understand themselves, heal, and create the satisfying, loving relationships they deserve.” — Sharon Martin, MSW, LCSW, psychotherapist, mental health blogger, and author of The CBT Workbook for Perfectionism “If you’ve ever wondered why you always seem to have ‘a string of bad luck’ with men, wonder no more! This book will explain why you’ve made the choices you have and what you can do to create ‘good luck’ in love moving forward.” — Michele Weiner-Davis, author of Healing from Infidelity “ Ghosted and Breadcrumbed is as clever and captivating as its title. Any woman who has experienced unrequited love or tried to catch an unavailable or avoidant man will find wisdom here. Marni Feuerman shows the reader how to sort out what is her fault and what is the man’s fault and provides techniques derived from cognitive-behavioral therapy, emotion-focused therapy, and mindfulness-based stress reduction to help her move on and be better prepared for love in the future. The book is written primarily for women in heterosexual relationships, but others may find it of value as well.” — Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT, clinician and founder of the PACT Institute “Dr. Feuerman digs deep into why some women fall for emotionally unavailable men, then gives actionable steps to help them move on and be free to find real intimacy. A must-read for anyone who feels rejected or undesired in a romantic relationship.” — Julie de Azevedo Hanks, PhD, LCSW, psychotherapist and author of The Assertiveness Guide for Women Dr. Marni Feuerman is a licensed marriage and family therapist and licensed clinical social worker. She maintains a private practice and offers workshops focused on relationship problems, marriage, infidelity, dating, and divorce. As a nationally recognized relationship and marriage expert, she has contributed to countless online media outlets. She lives in South Florida with her husband and twin daughters. Ghosted & Breadcrumbed Stop Falling for Unavailable Men and Get Smart About Healthy Relationships By Marni Feuerman New World Library Copyright © 2019 Marni Feuerman All rights reserved. ISBN: 978-1-60868-586-8 Contents INTRODUCTION: Trying to Love Someone Unavailable, CHAPTER ONE. Unrequited Love: The Big Picture, CHAPTER TWO. Maybe It's Him: Mr. Unavailable Profiled, CHAPTER THREE. Being the Affair Partner: A Dead-End Street, CHAPTER FOUR. Maybe It's You, CHAPTER FIVE. The Impact of Your Family History, CHAPTER SIX. But I'm in Love, CHAPTER SEVEN. When You Need to Break Up (and How to Do It), CHAPTER EIGHT. How Your Emotions Tell You What You Need, CHAPTER NINE. Tolerating the Pain of a Breakup If You Need to Walk Away for Good, CHAPTER TEN. Moving Forward with Clarity and Confidence, CHAPTER ELEVEN. Having a Healthy Relationship, CHAPTER TWELVE. Professional Help and Recovery, CHAPTER THIRTEEN. The Most Important Person: YOU, Acknowledgments, Recommended Resources, References, Index, About the Author, CHAPTER 1 UNREQUITED LOVE The Big Picture The topic of unrequited love may make for an entertaining movie, but if you are experiencing it yourself, it is anything but entertaining. In fact, it may be one of the most painful experiences you ever have. Unrequited lo