Liz and I were once asked on a radio program with Dr. James Dobson what we believed to be the most important “one thing needed” to make a great marriage. It didn’t take us long to answer. But because Liz and I had struggled through this one area for years in our marriage, it seemed like a “marriage sound barrier,” an impossible barrier to us. I wanted it; she wanted it, but we couldn’t break through. I’m not writing of a silver bullet answer to every problem in marriage, that would be naïve. Of course, there is so much more to marriage than just one thing, it’s the reason I wrote the rest of this book. It’s why Paul wrote Ephesians chapter 5. But what I am saying is this could be the irreducible minimum to jump start your marriage. With this in place, done daily, everything else is made so much easier.