An exploration of the difficult, but necessary lesson of life―letting go―as a means of healing, maturing, and getting closer to God and who and what is important Letting go isn’t just saying good-bye to people, places, and things, as important as they may be. It's also about letting go of attitudes and ideas, such as perfectionism, resentment, worry, and judgmentalism―that keep us from growing in our relationships with God and others. Letting go is crucial to our spiritual and emotional health. In How Can I Let Go If I Don't Know I ’m Holding On? , Linda Douty examines a variety of letting-go struggles and offers ways to move on to a deeper spirituality. Weaving together her own experiences and the stories of others, she offers strategies for letting go of the things that keep us from a deeper relationship with the Divine. With practical suggestions and updated versions of spiritual classics such as lectio divina, plus questions for study and reflection, this book is a rich resource for personal spiritual growth as well as for group study. “Every major spiritual tradition endorses a key piece of wisdom: It is by giving up, letting go, and renouncing attachments that we achieve fulfillment and job in life. Linda Douty’s book is a wide guide to accomplish this vital lesson.”―Larry Dossey, MD, author of The Extraordinary Power of Ordinary Things, Reinventing Medicine, and Healing Words "Charmingly and engagingly written, Douty's candid and conversational approach will appeal to many seeking for relief from themselves and their self-sustained burdens." --Phyllis Tickle compiler, The Divine Hours "In this wise book, Douty, a spiritual director and United Methodist, calls readers to identify the hurts and resentments that might be affecting their relationships with God and others. Individuals will find much that is useful on the road to healing." -- Publishers Weekly "A wise, searching, and often witty reflection, well-informed by scriptures and life experience and rich in memorable lines, on one of our toughest human challenges--letting go in order that we may become whom we can be with God's help. The work of a masterful spiritual guide whose own experience enables her to speak with authority. Essential reading for ministers and spiritual directors and people trying to get their act together." --E. Glenn Hinson, Emeritus Professor of Spirituality and John Loftis Professor of Church History, Baptist Theological Seminary at Richmond "Every major spiritual tradition endorses a key piece of wisdom: It is by giving up, letting go, and renouncing attachments that we achieve fulfillment and joy in life. Linda Douty's book is a wise guide to accomplishing this vital lesson." --Larry Dossey, author "Linda Douty's book, filled with stories and practical ideas, honors what we know of the release that comes with letting go, illuminates the places where we still hang on, and gives us the tools to take our next step toward freedom. Reading this book is affirming, challenging, and liberating." --Jane E. Vennard, author of A Praying Congregation: The Art of Teaching Spiritual Practice "The author identifies and offers practical suggestions about some of the dimensions in the landscape of letting go--an essential ingredient in the growth process. Even though there is general agreement on the need to let go, people often cannot identify their attachments. Speaking with wisdom based on experience, Linda charts some of the why, what, and how to uncover attachments and release them---an important book for spiritual seekers." --Herbert W. Smith, PhD., Professor Emeritus of Psychology, Rhodes College, Memphis, Tennessee "Linda Douty has written a wise, compassionate, and comprehensive book rooted in her own life experience, her appreciation of diverse spiritual mentors, and her deep commitment to God's way. The ‘how of letting go' through awareness, availability, action, allowing, and acceptance offers a profound process for the journey to responsible freedom. The author's honesty evokes and challenges readers to proceed hopefully in the art of letting go in our own lives." –Barbara B. Troxell, Senior Scholar in Spiritual Formation, Garrett-Evangelical Theological Seminary, Evanston, Illinois "Linda Douty lets us know that the title of her book emerges from her own life experience and does this in such an inspiring and practical way that enables us to find much needed help for our own spiritual pilgrimage." –Paul Blankenship, Professor Emeritus, Church Historian, Memphis Theological Seminary "As Linda Douty tells us the story of her journey she shares the achieved wisdom that has made her an exceptional spiritual director." –John McQuiston, author of Always We Begin Again and A Prayer Book for the Twenty-First Century "If the world's wisdom traditions agree on anything, it's the paramount importance of relinquishing all attachments, material and spiritual. In this wise, honest, and witty book, Linda Douty brings