ALERT, ALERT! Calling all the gay boys to the yard because WE. NEED. HELP. Hello, you gorgeous gay man! The truth is anyone can swipe right and find someone to spend a hot second with. But lasting love―the kind that shows up with coffee on a rough morning, listens when you tell the same ole' story at dinner parties, and promises to love you forever and ever amen (and actually keeps that promise)―well, that's rare. But what if it's not as hard as you think? As a life coach who's seen it all, from wedding bells to heartbreak hotels, Matt Bays delivers the ultimate guide for the modern gay man looking to find and nurture lasting love. With 69 honest and entertaining essays,  How to Find & Keep a Gay Man  is your new best friend in the world of gay dating. This guidebook is filled with thoughtful reflections, heartwarming affirmations, and REAL BIG TIPS for keeping things fresh, fun, meaningful, spicy, and even a little dirty! The ins and outs (iykyk) of dating in the gay world are all here, and darling, they are queer AF… so get used to it. Can't seem to stop chasing the wrong guys? Then honey, this book is for you! It's time to figure this out, fight for your worth, and find the man of your dreams. Because YOU are worth it, queen. Love you. Mean it. "Matt Bays is a gift, and How to Find and Keep a Gay Man is essential reading for any gay single navigating the fierce, fabulous, and often fraught world of modern dating. With practical insights, hilarious anecdotes, and the gentle tone of a trusted friend, this book offers a compassionate guide to building healthier, more fulfilling relationships." ― S Rev. Brandan Robertson, Author, Queer & Christian: Reclaiming the Bible, Our Faith, and Our Place at the Table "Looking for―and holding onto―love doesn't have to be a nightmare. Matt Bays' hilarious, heartfelt, and road-tested tips are all you need to successfully make the journey from hopelessly horny to happy husband." ― Noah Michelson, Director of HuffPost Personal and Co-host of HuffPost's Am I Doing It Wrong? podcast "Equal parts wisdom and WTF―this isn’t just a dating book. It’s a mirror, a megaphone, and a whole damn mood for anyone serious about finding real love. Matt Bays spills the tea, throws some shade, and still manages to serve up real advice that hits where it counts. Whether you're single, partnered, or just figuring it all out, this flirty, fierce, and full-of-heart guide is like your gay best friend in hardcover―ready to tell you the truth and cheer you on every step of the way." ― Stefan Arestis, of the Nomadic Boys travel blog and co-author of Out in the World: The Gay Guide to Travelling with Pride Matt Bays  is a speaker, life coach, and author known for his nationally released memoir  Finding God in the Ruins  and his debut LGBTQ memoir  Leather & Lace . Both his writing and music have appeared in  HuffPost ,  The Advocate , and  Out Magazine . Through his compelling podcast,  How to Find (& Keep) a Gay Man , Matt empowers gay men seeking meaningful connection. Often compared to writers like Glennon Doyle and Anne Lamott, Matt brings readers a voice that is honest, raw, funny, and deeply compassionate. His unique perspective inspires authenticity and courage for the journey of life. Originally from the U.S., Matt now lives in Porto, Portugal, with his husband, Chris. Connect with him on Instagram:  @mattbayswriter .