“Partnerships are tricky, especially when you are parenting young kids. I Didn’t Sign Up for This offers an approach for how you can stay connected to your partner—and to yourself—as you navigate those early childhood years. Dr. Tracy weaves together real moments from couples therapy, honest stories from her own life, and direct teaching of coping skills so you can make meaningful change in your home.” — Dr. Becky Kennedy, author of the #1 New York Times bestseller Good Inside “ I Didn’t Sign Up for This offers relatable stories of real-life couples. Whether you are newly in a relationship, married with children, or navigating a blended family, you’ll gain real tools to help you feel more connected with your partner.” — Eve Rodsky, author of the New York Times bestseller Fair Play What happens when your relationship no longer feels like the one you said “yes” to? Couples therapist Dr. Tracy Dalgleish has spent the last seventeen years dedicated to helping hundreds of couples in distress find hope and healing, sometimes by staying together and other times not. Breakdowns in communication, lack of intimacy, infidelity, overbearing in-laws and exes (to name a few)—she’s seen it all. Shortly after the birth of her first child, Dr. Tracy suddenly began to see herself in her clients’ narratives. Despite the overwhelming joy she felt as a new mother, she also found herself welling up with anger and resentment toward her partner as she began shouldering more than half the domestic load and childcare labor in their marriage. In time, she found herself uttering the very words she’d heard countless times in her office from her clients: I didn’t sign up for this . Part memoir, part self-help, Dr. Tracy Dalgleish’s debut book provides a rare look inside real therapy sessions with four couples—and into her own marriage. With unflinching candor and heartfelt empathy, she digs to the root of the issues that fuel our day-to-day relationship conflicts and illuminates the common struggle of what it means to be human: the incredible difficulty of showing up wholly and authentically in our most intimate relationship with others and with ourselves. “Partnerships are tricky, especially when you are parenting young kids. I Didn’t Sign Up for This offers an approach for how you can stay connected to your partner―and to yourself―as you navigate those early childhood years. Dr. Tracy weaves together real moments from couples therapy, honest stories from her own life, and direct teaching of coping skills so you can make meaningful change in your home.” ― Dr. Becky Kennedy, author of the #1 New York Times bestseller Good Inside --- “ I Didn’t Sign Up for This offers relatable stories of real-life couples. Whether you are newly in a relationship, married with children, or navigating a blended family, you’ll gain real tools to help you feel more connected with your partner.” ― Eve Rodsky, author of the New York Times bestseller Fair Play --- “It can be difficult to change patterns in your relationship. Dr. Tracy shows us real stories of how couples heal old wounds and develop deeper, more meaningful connections. A must-read book for anyone in a relationship!” ― Dr. Shefali Tsabary, clinical psychologist and author of the New York Times bestseller The Conscious Parent --- “ I Didn’t Sign Up for This provides an honest look at what couples struggle with while also highlighting that even therapists are not exempt from these struggles. Combined with her signature compassion and empathy, Dr. Tracy reminds us that struggling is part of what makes us human.” ― Amanda E. White, LPC, founder of @therapyforwomen and bestselling author of Not Drinking Tonight --- “At a time when everyone is asking themselves questions about their relationships, Dr. Tracy’s insights into couples and their everyday dilemmas remind us that we are not alone in our struggles and that there are actionable tools we can use to feel closer and more connected to our partners. Thank you, Dr. Tracy, for being a trustworthy and compassionate guide.” ― Alexandra H. Solomon, PhD, licensed clinical psychologist, faculty at Northwestern University, and author of three books, including Love Every Day --- “This book provides an honest look at what we commonly struggle with in our relationships while giving you one big insight: Even therapists struggle too. Combined with her compassion and empathy, Dr. Tracy reminds us that we are all human. I Didn’t Sign Up for This is a must-read and must-have for your bookshelf!” ― Chelsea Bodie & Caitlin Slavens, therapists, authors of Not Your Mother’s Postpartum Book , and founders of @MamaPsychologists --- “If you’ve wondered whether you’re alone in the challenges you face in your relationship, I Didn’t Sign Up for This will show you otherwise. Filled with relatable stories of the challenges of intimacy and the insights and tools you’d receive in the therapy room, Dr. Tracy’s book is a must-read for