What If One Habit Was Causing All Your Relationship Problems? Do you feel unlucky in love? Depressed or frustrated with your relationships or dating life? Have you ever thought, "I must be cursed?" Author Jess McCann spent a decade investigating why so many smart, attractive people suffer repeating, negative outcomes in their love lives -- whether that means constantly getting ghosted, attracting the same noncommittal partner, or repeatedly fighting with a spouse. What she found was the startling revelation that men and women who struggle to develop or maintain happy relationships all have one thing in common. They're repeating a pattern because they're unknowingly stuck in a habit... In a time where people are advised to concentrate more on themselves in order to gain happiness and love, McCann astutely lays out a different and more sustainable path to those goals. If Love Is A Blessing, Why Do I Feel Cursed? shines a light on the 5 primary habits that sabotage true connection with others and the practices needed to rid and reframe them. In this book you'll learn if you have one (or all) of the following: A Worrier/ Lamenter Mind - A Wanter Mind - An Inferior Mind - A Superior Mind - A Contestant Mind McCann openly shares her own journey along with compelling examples from her coaching practice, making this a quick and easy read. You'll learn how various styles of binge thinking distort reality, cause miscommunication, and create repeating patterns. Once you identify your own specific mind habits, McCann provides you with concrete steps to help create new ones, transforming everything about your love life in the process. Is self-love or positivity the missing component? The answer may surprise you... If Love Is A Blessing, Why Do I Feel Cursed? is an updated, second edition of, "Cursed?" Read what reviewers have already said about this life-changing book! From the Author I used to feel "cursed" when it came to relationships. Throughout college, I had the curse of pining after men who never liked me back, and only attracting those who I had no interest in. Then, as you might have read in my first book, "You Lost Him at Hello," I learned some very effective techniques that changed that. However, another "curse" descended upon me. I would meet someone and be very excited at first, but once the person expressed their desire for a relationship, I quickly got bored and moved on. It seemed like the universe was playing a cruel joke! Finally, I met my darling husband who was everything I said I wanted. Ah, the curse was broken! But wait, it wasn't! Right after we got married, we fell into a pattern of arguing about the same things over and over again. Our first year of marriage was tough, and I could not figure out why love was so darn complicated for me. Then, in 2011, I had a huge awakening, and the reason for feeling "cursed" was revealed. No surprise--it was all something I was doing. I had a bad habit that I was unaware of. Yes, one single habit was creating all these different, negative patterns. I looked at the clients I was coaching and many of them had the habit, too. It's so insidious that most people miss seeing it, however, once it's pointed out, it's as visible as the nose on your face. It took ten years to write, but all my research, coaching experience, and personal story are now available for you to read so that you can break your unwanted, repeating patterns as well. It's my life's purpose to help people stop their self-created suffering and have the love they desire. One husband, two kids, and 11 years later I've got a good handle on the curse, but only because I was ready to see it in myself. If you want change in your love life and are ready for deep self-reflection, this book is for you. "If Love Is A Blessing..." is one of the best relationship books I've ever read. I learned so much about myself and had some major breakthroughs. I learned I had a 'Lamenter Mind' and a 'Wanter Mind'. I spent so much time daydreaming about the highlights of a previous date, the stimulating conversation, the passionate kisses. I replayed this over and over in my mind. I also kept wishing and hoping for the phone to ring to set up another date. I dreaded the waiting. These thoughts consumed me to the point where if another date was set up, I'd be so happy; and if I didn't hear from the guy, I thought there must be something wrong with me. In a short time, I could go from being so excited to so unhappy. One night I was awakened with the startling realization that I had spent so much time in my life reliving the past, and wishing for the future, I was not living in the Present moment and that is a huge mistake, bigger than I realized at the time. As I continued to read through 'If Love is a Blessing....' I began the concerted effort to get rid of thoughts from the past and future each time they showed up, and focused on being Present. Living in the Present moment is not so easy when you have a Lam