Unrealistic expectations are the culprit in relationship problems. Dr. Wolinsky looks at the root causes of unrealistic expectations: separation, resistance to separation, and desire for merger. It is the unresolved resistance to separation which leads people to expect partners to act as parents and fulfill past-time needs in the present. The further extension of this subconscious demand is not seeing or experiencing the partner as a human being in the present. Used Book in Good Condition