This participant’s guide for the video-based group study explores the message in the book Kingdom Single . It encourages singles to see themselves as complete in Christ and free to serve Him, and empowers them to live as Kingdom men and women in a morally corrupt culture. Kingdom Single Group Video Experience Participant's Guide Living complete and Fully free By Tony Evans Tyndale House Publishers Copyright © 2019 Focus on the Family All rights reserved. ISBN: 978-1-58997-983-3 Contents Welcome, Kingdom Singles!, v, 1. Complete and Fully Free, 1, 2. Called for a Purpose, 17, 3. Content in Who You Are, 33, 4. Claiming Your Entire Victory, 47, 5. Capitalizing on Your Authority, 61, 6. Calling on God with Power, 73, Acknowledgments, 85, Notes, 87, About Dr. Tony Evans, 89, CHAPTER 1 COMPLETE AND FULLY FREE The Main Point Kingdom singles are already complete and able to fully maximize that completeness by willingly placing themselves under the rule of God and living within His boundaries of freedom. The Gathering To find out more about the kingdom single's completeness, read the following excerpt from Kingdom Single. If you have time, answer the questions that appear at the end of the selection. Or you can finish the section at home. * * * He Completes You If you're looking for a romantic partner to complete you as a kingdom single, you really don't understand what Jesus Christ has already done. Because in Him, you are as complete as complete comes. Now, you may not realize that truth. You may not identify with that truth. And if you don't, you're not living out the full benefits of that truth. But none of those things makes the truth any less true. Colossians 2:10 tells us, "In Him you have been made complete, and He is the head over all rule and authority." To think otherwise is to make the institution of marriage, and your desire for a marriage partner, an idol. And idolatry is sin. Friend, Jesus Christ completes you. That's the truth. Thus, what a romantic partner can provide must remain outside of that, in addition to it, or alongside it. He or she cannot complete you because Jesus already has. If you are not aware or mindful of this reality, there's a danger that you will be expecting too much of another human being, asking him or her to be or do something that only God Himself can be and do. Far too often, we try to transfer what we see in movies to our real lives. But that places pressure on us and the other people in our lives to live up to a standard we were never designed to fulfill. As you grow in your understanding, discovery, and acceptance of your completeness in Jesus Christ, you will experience the victory, authority, and intimacy He has already secured for you in Him. You will then be freed up to experience other relationships at a level they were designed for.... Relational issues arise when the focus of either person (or both) shifts from God to each other as the deciding factor, influencer, or even source of completion. That's exactly what happened in the Garden of Eden, after all, which led to the Fall. Only when you understand and embrace the truth that Christ Himself completes you will you be able to view any current or potential relationship for what it can actually provide — a companion to come alongside you. You'll be amazed at how fulfilling and satisfying a relationship can be when expectations are normalized, the benefit of the doubt (coupled with grace) becomes natural, and you both look to God to lead, fill, satisfy, and complete you. * * * If someone were to ask you to define "being single," what would you say? In what ways has our culture influenced your definition of singleness? Why does singleness seem to be a negative to many people? Why do so many single Christians consider themselves incomplete? Show Time! In session 1 of the Kingdom Single Group Video Experience, Dr. Tony Evans lays out the first principle in our study: As a kingdom single, you are already complete. * * * After viewing Tony Evans' presentation "Complete and Fully Free," use the following questions to help you think through what you saw and heard. 1. Dr. Evans referred to Colossians 2:10 to emphasize our completeness in Christ: "In Him you have been made complete, and He is the head over all rule and authority." What does it mean to be complete in Christ? Describe the connection between completeness in Christ and alignment under His rule. What consequences could Christians face when they choose to make decisions outside of His overarching rule? 2. Dr. Evans said that as long as you continue to view yourself as "incomplete" as a single, you will cause yourself to constantly focus on what you lack — rather than on all you have. Describe what can happen when two "incomplete" people wind up together in a dating or marriage relationship. Tony Evans said that one reason many marriages break up is that there are too many singles getting married who didn't first