Argues that codependency is a healthy, normal, and necessary phenomenon and that meaningful relationships with others strengthen and nurture us and support our self-esteem, contrary to popular myths that make codependency a totally negative concept. 25,000 first printing. Tour. Psychologist Solomon (Narcissism and Intimacy, Norton, 1988) espouses a refreshing attitude toward the healing power of positive, mutual dependence in intimate relationships. Arguing against the cultural ideal of independence and self-sufficiency, she presents a persuasive case that healthy dependence, so often confused with dysfunctional codependency, is in fact a hallmark of maturity. Solomon asserts that many of the emotional obstacles couples face are a result of unfulfilled dependency needs that are largely shaped by the "imprints" of relating to others we all form during infancy. Drawing upon her 20-plus years of experience as a marriage counselor, Solomon uses case histories to describe imprints for bonding, emotional sharing, bridging connections, and mature dependence. She also gives advice on how to meet a partner's dependency needs. Educational and informative, this counterpoint to the codependency movement will help reassure all that humans are not meant to be alone. Highly recommended for public libraries. Dana L. Brumbelow, Auburn P.L., Ala. Copyright 1995 Reed Business Information, Inc.