Mary Slessor was a Scottish born missionary and the female equivalent of Dr David Livingstone. In 1876 she set sail for the Cross River basin in West Africa where she devoted the rest of her life to teaching the African people a better way of life. She worked hard to stop the killing of twins which were then regarded as the Devil s spawn, the burying of Kings with living slaves, tribal wars and lawlessness. She adopted and fed orphans and along with others she brought education and medical knowledge and treatment for the sick. There is little known of her work but this remarkable lady is important enough to grace a Clydesdale Bank note in the same way as Florence Nightingale and Dickens grace English notes. She was my adoptive great grandmother. This is the story of the coming together of two great African houses, the Royal Iweka family of Obosi in the Niger area and the pioneering House of Egwu Idam of the Cross River. Mary Slessor adopted the wife of Egwu Idam who himself was a protégé of a Medical Missionary. Their own son, my father was fostered by Rev Smith an Oxbridge Classics graduate who they say was the son of the Captain of the Titanic. The story seeks to say that far from being a terrible thing, the sacrifice and work of Mary Slessor and many like her produced much fruit. It is thanks to her that I am who I am today, a highly qualified Barrister respected amongst my peers. The Title of the Book is taken from the first words spoken by my father to my mother when they met at Pharmacy School all those years ago in 1946. Their story shows how through learning from their parents who themselves learned from Mary and many like her, they went on to influence their people very much for the better and made very decent lives for themselves. My Mother was the first female Pharmacist of the Ibo tribe. My Uncle Sir Francis Ibiam was the first Governor of Eastern Nigeria. My father was one of the founding fathers of the independent Nigerian State and many members of the family went on to influence many for the better as a result of making the right choices and practising that which they learnt from Mary Slessor and others. The story throws some light on the political history of the Nigeria and gives some insight into the effect of Islamic fundamentalism and its role in the politics of Africa and the Biafran war, a very topical issue, today. It also shows how despite great suffering and pressure, the protégés of Mary continued to make the right choices and continued to play a positive role amongst their people. It shows the human spirit bouncing back as we recovered as much as we could after the Biafran War. This story presents a different type of African, one that is able and respectable in every way and not the usual starving poor deprived and depraved type. This story lets the African speak for himself and what some of us have to say is very different from what the white Liberals have said for us. It is usual today to apologise for colonialism and for the work of Missionaries in Africa but to the Africans, the work of Mary and her kind was a beacon of light that all should emulate. As for the problems in Africa, there is a whole army of Africans ready able and willing to take on the task of bringing life to the continent . For generations we have had the training. The world continues to ignore us and have forgotten even that we exist.