This workbook applies the lessons of Safe People to help you break out of unhealthy relationships and build healthy relationships that will help you thrive. Why do we choose the wrong people to get involved with? Is it possible to change? And if so, where does one begin? In manageable yet soul-searching steps that promote progress and inspire confidence, Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend walk you through how make safe choices in relationships, from family to friendship, romance, and work. Their expert guidance will help you: Correct things within you that jeopardize your relational security - Learn the 20 traits of untrustworthy people - Recognize what makes people relationally safe - Avoid unhealthy relationships - Form positive relationships - Become a safe person yourself The Safe People Workbook may be the most important safety manual you'll ever read! Some people are good for us, some are not. Safe people are people who help drive emotional healing and character growth. Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend show how we can find the people who will help us down the path to healing and void those who may damage our emotional health. Safe People: How to Find Relationships that are Good for You provides practical ground-breaking help which lays a firm foundation for personal growth. Safe People is important, practical reading for today's modern world. -- Midwest Book Review Countless individuals have invested themselves into people who've shipwrecked their lives in return. If you're one who has chosen the wrong people to get involved with or makes the same mistakes about relationships over and over again, then the Safe People Workbook offers you a hands-on remedy. In this companion to Safe People, Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend walk you through frank, soul-searching questions into active change and practical steps for growth. The Safe People Workbook gives you solid guidance that will help you - Correct things within yourself that jeopardize your relationship security - Learn the 20 traits of "unsafe" people - Recognize what makes people trustworthy - Avoid unhealthy relationships - Form positive relationships -- In manageable steps that promote progress and inspire confidence, Cloud and Townsend help you restructure your approach to relationships. You can stop being a victim and begin enjoying the kinds of healthy, reciprocal relationships everyone wants and needs. The Safe People Workbook may be the most important safety manual you'll ever read! Dr. Henry Cloud is a clinical psychologist, pastor to pastors, and New York Times bestselling author. His 45 books, including the iconic Boundaries , have sold over 20 million copies worldwide. Throughout his storied career as a clinician, he started treatment centers, created breakthrough new models rooted in research, and has been a leading voice on issues of mental health and leadership on a global scale. Dr. Cloud lives in Los Angeles with his wife, Tori, and their two daughters, Olivia and Lucy. Dr. John Townsend is a nationally known leadership consultant, psychologist, and author, selling over 10 million books, including the New York Times bestselling Boundaries series. John founded the Townsend Institute for Leadership and Counseling and the Townsend Leadership Program . Dr. Townsend travels extensively for corporate consulting, speaking events, and to help develop leaders, their teams, and their families. John and his family live in Southern California and Texas. Visit DrTownsend.com . Part OneUnsafe PeopleChapter OneWhat Is an Unsafe Person?In retrospect, I (John) can see all the reasons why Karen was an unsafe person. But while we were dating, I was caught up in the wonder and excitement of the relationship with her and missed a few things along the way. Even after the relationship ended so abruptly, I wondered for years how I could have been so wrong about thinking someone was so right.Is This Your Life?The lessons I learned in the romantic sphere can be learned from any relationship because we can be wrong about thinking someone is right in a variety of situations.* Think about the relationship(s) that came to mind as you read about my relationship with Karen. Who has been a Karen in your life?* A romantic interest* A best friend* A coworker* A relative* A church acquaintance* Other:* Have you had more than one Karen in your life?* Have you blamed yourself when you've been hurt by the Karen(s) in your life? If so, for what did you blame yourself?* How have you answered the question you've probably asked yourself---'What in the world am I doing wrong?'Character DiscernmentWhat are you doing wrong in relationships? The answer to that question probably lies in the fact that you are untrained in discerning the character of people. Without the proper maturity and skills, our God-given need for support and attachment to others (Gen. 2:18) can get us into real trouble.When I (Henry) asked a group of college students, 'What qualitie