This short book teaches how all relationship problems have the same core challenge: being an individual, separate self while also connecting with others in healthy ways. You might think that you're your own person, and that you're already using good relationship skills. Yet this book invites you to look more deeply at yourself and your connection habits. It can be hard to see that a good relationship (in a marriage, family, friendship or workplace) requires a level of independence of each person. Without this healthy autonomy, we expect too much from others, feel overly impacted by them, or try to control them. While we need relationships and all that they provide, we also need our own self-esteem, self-fulfillment, and charge of ourselves that no one makes or breaks for us. Separate and Connected teaches how to get your individuality right so you can get your relationships right. It's both straightforward and inspiring, with practical and profound takeaways for your relationships and your life.