Do your children or students ever get into fights? Are you tired of serving as the conflict-police? Imagine if there was a way to train them to avoid hurting each other's feelings. Imagine if there was a way to teach them to resolve their own conflicts, so that you would never have to act as their police officer. Shalom Secrets empowers your children or students with a crucial life-skill: knowledge of how to get along peacefully with family, friends, and peers. With Shalom Secrets , children will gain practical, effective tools to ensure their social success. Shalom Secrets just might be the greatest gift you can give your child. Through stimulating, thought-provoking lessons, this book teaches children how to be sensitive to others' feelings and how to independently resolve the inevitable interpersonal conflicts that show up in their lives. This is a fully revised and updated edition of the book Shalom Secrets , which has sold over 15,000 copies. This book, which appeared in two languages, was used in over 70 schools, and improved the lives of over 40,000 children. Written for Jewish children, ages 9 through 12, these concepts can benefit all children. "This delightful book can help children grow in their ahavas Yisroel and in their relationships in school and at home." -- Rabbi Paysach Krohn, noted lecturer, and author of the Maggid series. "There is no doubt that after children read this book their middos will be significantly improved, and they will be more equipped to get along with others for the rest of their lives."--Rabbi Shimon Finkelman, author of Rav Belsky and Chofetz Chaim: A Daily Companion "Your messages are clear and to the point. I feel many children will benefit greatly by this informative and inspiring work. I wish you continued success in spreading Shalom Secrets ."--Rabbi Zelig Pliskin, author of Happiness and Upgrade Your Mind, Upgrade Your Life As an elementary school teacher ,  I encountered my students' interpersonal challenges quite often. One year in particular, several boys in my class were constantly teasing another boy, whom we'll call Dovi. All my admonitions fell on deaf ears.It was terribly painful for me to watch this boy suffer, and I was clueless as to how to put a stop to it. To be fair, Dovi wasn't altogether innocent; he did annoy those boys. But there had to be a better way for them to try to stop his annoying behavior without hurting him - which wasn't working very well anyway.While most of my angst stemmed from my feelings for the victim of the abuse, part of me was also struggling with the question of how we as a society could allow these boys, who were inherently good, to continue with their cruel behavior. I knew that we should be concerned with improving their character, which would certainly impact their future relationships.And I knew that the Torah had the answers. In fact, I had previously delivered a number of lectures  on the topic of interpersonal relationships. The challenge was to distill the Torah's wisdom into an easy-to-learn method that would be appropriate for children to use. Having no other option and with nothing to lose, I sat down and, with Hashem's help, came up with the basics of the Shalom Secrets method. I tried it out in my class, and it was successful beyond my dreams. The boys were actually learning to resolve conflicts on their own!Fast-forward 20 years. Over 15,000 copies of Shalom Secrets have been sold, a Yiddish version was published in response to strong demand, and over 70 schools and 40,000 children have learned this method. The verdict is in: It works! Baruch Hashem , the feedback I have received from many teachers and families has been only positive.Don't expect miracles; but with patience and perseverance, I believe you will see a definite improvement in how your children and students interact. The book itself is geared to 9- to 12-year-olds, but the ideas are appropriate and meaningful for all ages.Schools can use this book as a textbook, and families can read the Secrets together.  Rabbi Chaim Trainer lives with his family in Los Angeles, California, where he has been involved in education for over 25 years. He received rabbinical ordination from Beth Medrash Govoha of Lakewood, New Jersey, and he has served as a senior lecturer in the Pittsburgh Community Kollel. In 2016 he was a recipient of the prestigious Milken Family Foundation Jewish Educator award. Currently, he teaches at Yeshiva Rav Isacsohn - Toras Emes Academy, and he works with individuals and groups to improve their social cognition and social skills. This is the revised edition of the book that sold over 15,000 copies, improved the lives of over 40,000 children and was used by over 70 schools.