Are you baffled by your baby's crying or your child's tantrums? Do you feel helpless, impatient, or angry? Do you struggle with conflicting advice? Tears and Tantrums will reassure you and help you stay connected to your child during these difficult moments. Now translated into ten languages, it describes a new way of responding to crying in children from birth to age eight. This respectful and revolutionary approach has many benefits, including helping babies sleep through the night, preventing discipline problems, increasing children's attention span, reducing aggression and hyperactivity, and helping children heal from trauma. Children use tears and tantrums to release tension brought on by frustrating or frightening experiences as well as to express urgent feelings such as hunger, chills, or pain. Solter teaches parents and other caregivers about the psychological and physical benefits to children of crying and raging; the causes of crying in infants and older children; the implications of repressing tears and strong emotions, which include behavioral problems and stress-related illnesses; and providing emotional safety to encourage healing. Drawing on scholarship, professional and personal experience, and parents' reactions to the crying workshops she conducts, Solter offers practical, compassionate solutions to problems posed by children's emotional pain and strong feelings and the childhood memories and hurts that children's pain and feelings can evoke in their parents. Her empathic tone, clear writing, and knowledgeable advice help make her handbook a welcome addition to parenting literature. Kathryn Carpenter From Publishers Weekly­: "Solter, a developmental psychologist and author of The Aware Baby , upends many common responses to crying in children. Her premise is that crying serves the important function of releasing stress and leading to resolution of conflict or trauma... Her emphatic urging that parents not shame or punish children for crying could relieve much of the tension about crying and tantrums suffered by both adults and children." From the foreword by Thomas Gordon, Ph.D. (author of Parent Effectiveness Training ): "[Dr. Solter is] more familiar with the scientific research studies for early child development and crying than anyone in the world... This book will bring rewards that all parents value, namely, children who are healthier, both physically and psychologically." "Dr. Aletha Solter provides outstanding parenting advice on what to do when babies and children cry. Her growing reputation as the leading authority in this area of parenting is well deserved." -William H. Frey, Ph.D., author of Crying: the Mystery of Tears "In this developmentally accurate and humanely sensitive guide, parents will learn to respond to their children's crying with love, caring, and attunement." -Thomas Armstrong, Ph.D., Author of Awakening Your Child's Natural Genius "In this age where we are trying to find ways to prevent violence in a very violent society, this book is a winner. If only there were some way to get this author's message out to the masses of parents who are raising their children in the same old knee-jerk ways." -Elaine Childs-Gowell, Ph.D., Psychotherapist and author of Good Grief Rituals "This book is so important for the health of our children and our society that I am recommending it to every professional and parent that I know." -William Emerson, Ph.D., Pioneer in infant and child psychotherapy "My highest recommendation for Tears and Tantrums . This book needs to be in every library and is the ideal baby shower gift. The information in it will free families of emotional trauma in order to journey through life's challenges together in trust." -Jeannine Parvati Baker, Midwife and author of Conscious Conception "I heartily recommend Tears and Tantrums to all parents. It confirms many principles in our clinical work over the past 30 years... This book is a 'must read' for all those caring for children." -Vivian Janov, Director of The Primal Institute Aletha Solter is a Swiss/American developmental psychologist living in Southern California. She studied with Dr. Jean Piaget in Geneva, Switzerland, where she earned a Master's Degree in human biology. She holds a Ph.D. in psychology from the University of California. Her books have been translated into many languages, and she is recognized internationally as an expert on attachment, trauma, and non-punitive discipline. She is the founder of the Aware Parenting Institute, an international organization with certified instructors in many countries. Used Book in Good Condition