Tired of the cycle- ask, repeat, yell, regret? You’re not alone. With constant pings, packed schedules, and big feelings, parenting today can feel impossible. Written by Todd Sarner, MFT, psychotherapist, parenting coach, and founder of Transformative Parenting, this warm, science-based guide draws from over two decades of clinical experience and mentorship with attachment pioneer Dr. Gordon Neufeld, where Sarner also served as a former Faculty Member of the Neufeld Institute. The core truth: your child doesn’t need perfect parents, they need to feel genuinely connected to you in the moments that matter most. When that connection is secure, cooperation, resilience, and healthy maturity naturally follow. Inside, you’ll learn how to: • Create emotional safety and secure attachment your child can truly rely on the foundation for everything else • Navigate screens and AI without losing connection or your authority as their guide • Lead with calm confidence using firm, warm boundaries that teach rather than punish • Turn defiance and meltdowns into opportunities for trust, growth, and real skills • Repair without shame when things go wrong (because they will) • Build three essential capacities in your child creativity, resilience, and wisdom through daily rhythms, not forced outcomes This isn’t permissive “anything goes,” and it isn’t authoritarian control. It’s the middle path of attachment-first leadership steady, warm, and clear. The kind of parenting that brings less chaos, more cooperation, and a home that feels safe and sane again. Most parenting advice treats symptoms. This book strengthens the foundation so discipline, screen boundaries, and emotional regulation flow naturally from secure connection, not compliance tactics. Lead with love. Guide with confidence. Raise kids who can think, feel, and choose well even in the digital age. The Parenting Reset Every Family Needs. As a pediatrician and a parent, I found this book incredibly helpful. Highly recommend! Todd uses real-life stories to show how strengthening attachment not using more discipline tricks creates lasting change. - Dr. Bonnie Hunter. Pediatrician and host of The Pediatrician Next Door Podcast. "From the very first page, you'll feel like a wise, warm friend is walking alongside you. This book makes attachment theory beautifully relatable and practical moving it into loving steps that come from the heart. It leaves you with the empowering feeling: 'I can do this!'" - Kim John Payne M.ED., Author of Simplicity Parenting, The Soul of Discipline, and Being At Your Best When Your Kids Are At Their Worst "This book provides a practical, attachment-based approach to parenting that focuses on connecting with our children as the foundation for our relationship. It helps parents gain skills to raise resilient children, while also providing parents with permission and grace to take time for ourselves and remind ourselves that we are humans who are going to make mistakes; and that's okay." - Jessica Rabon, PhD, Pediatric Psychologist and Clinical Assistant Professor at the University of South Carolina School of Medicine Greenville. "Todd Sarner has written a heartfelt book for parents, encouraging them to connect with their children in a world of non-stop interference from technology. The magic in his writing is that he connects with his readers' everyday parenting experience so powerfully!" - Tina Feigal, M.S., Parent Coach and Behavior Consultant