For parents, understanding The Sense Connection enhances the skills needed to raise happy, well-adjusted children who will become successful, emotionally-balanced adults. For spouses or lovers, gaining insight into the ways in which primary sense channels compliment and conflict with each other can shift the balance from discord to harmony. And for friends and co-workers, a firmer grasp of how we as individuals view the world could mean more fulfilling and productive relationships and careers. Can understanding others be as simple as identifying their primary sense channels and adjusting accordingly? Naturally, the sense mode does not define the entire personality. But it can offer you some useful short-cuts to understanding. Consider the many ways we put ourselves and others into neat, tidy, limiting pigeonholes. We've heard so many of these expressions: "What do you do?", "Where are you from?", "What's your sign?" These categorizations are merely stereotypes, whether professional, regional, ethnic, astrological, or even the result of The Myers-Briggs examination. Worse than that, they're dead ends. "He's an only child." "She's a Pisces." These stereotypes do not allow room for adaptation, for coming together and making a connection. By adding The Sense Connection to our lexicon, we can find a way to understand others quickly and accurately and then modify our interactive style to fit better with theirs, whatever their profession, cultural background, or birth sign. The Sense Connection Discovering How Your Five Senses Determine Your Effectiveness as a Person, Partner, and Parent By Natalie Robinson Garfield iUniverse, Inc. Copyright © 2009 Natalie Robinson Garfield All right reserved. ISBN: 978-1-4401-6559-7 Contents Acknowledgments..............................................xiOverview.....................................................xiiiCommon Senses:...............................................1Sense Mode Profile Test......................................2Sense Connections Briefly Defined: KATOV.....................5The "Click" of a Couple......................................22Sexual Incompatibility.......................................33Psychotherapy................................................38Friendships..................................................43Duo-Dyads....................................................53How Quickly They Grow........................................75Sibling Favoritism...........................................83Tuning in to a Preteen.......................................87Preparing for the Future.....................................93Interview Intuition..........................................99Office Frantics..............................................110Classroom and Consequence....................................118Attorney Attunement..........................................128Modal Meditation.............................................135Maturing Modes...............................................146Sense Secrets................................................151Final Thoughts...............................................159Bibliography.................................................161 Chapter One Defining the Sense Connection Common Senses: The Sense Channel Theory This book is about the crucial impact of sense channels on our lives. To identify your primary sense channel, as well as least dominant ones, you may wish to complete "The Sense Connection Questionaire." When you complete the questionnaire, your scores will show which senses seem to dominate your perceptions: kinesthetic (how you move), auditory (what you hear), tactile (what you feel), olfactory (what you smell and taste), and visual (what you see). As we proceed, exploring the development of your primary sense channels and how they affect the way you interact, make your living, make love, raise your children, and perceive yourself and the world, keep your initial sense identity in mind. Sense Mode Profile Test You may be kinesthetic if ... You crave physical exercise. You are always on the go. You have a sense of life being something you move through. Your career is a climb to the top. Your relationships have to do with pulling away from someone or drawing closer. You can read a map and take the initiative in finding a new route. You can follow football or basketball from diagrams. You may be auditory if ... You are bothered by poor acoustics. You can hear a melody and reproduce it vocally or instrumentally. You often hear music in your head. You are impressed with someone's speaking voice. You find certain phrases, turns of speech, or authors' styles thrilling and memorable. You have a reputation for being a good listener. You may be tactile if ... You have strong fabric preferences or sensitivities. The seam of your sock being out of line is irritating. It feels particularly good to return to your home or to remain there. Animals ar