From an author of the best-selling women’s health classic Our Bodies, Ourselves comes a bracingly forthright memoir about a life-long friendship across racial and class divides. A white woman’s necessary learning, and a Black woman’s complex evolution, make These Walls Between Us a “tender, honest, cringeworthy and powerful read.”  (Debby Irving, author, Waking Up White .) In the mid-1950s, a fifteen-year-old African American teenager named Mary White (now Mary Norman) traveled north from Virginia to work for twelve-year-old Wendy Sanford’s family as a live-in domestic for their summer vacation by a remote New England beach. Over the years, Wendy's family came to depend on Mary’s skilled service—and each summer, Mary endured the extreme loneliness of their elite white beachside retreat in order to support her family. As the Black “help” and the privileged white daughter, Mary and Wendy were not slated for friendship. But years later—each divorced, each a single parent, Mary now a rising officer in corrections and Wendy a feminist health activist—they began to walk the beach together after dark, talking about their children and their work, and a friendship began to grow. Based on decades’ worth of visits, phone calls, letters, and texts between Mary and Wendy, These Walls Between Us  chronicles the two women’s friendship, with a focus on what Wendy characterizes as her “oft-stumbling efforts, as a white woman, to see Mary more fully and to become a more dependable friend.” The book examines obstacles created by Wendy’s upbringing in a narrow, white, upper-class world; reveals realities of domestic service rarely acknowledged by white employers; and draws on classic works by the African American writers whose work informed and challenged Wendy along the way. Though Wendy is the work’s primary author, Mary read and commented on every draft—and together, the two friends hope their story will incite and support white readers to become more informed and accountable friends across the racial divides created by white supremacy and to become active in the ongoing movement for racial justice. 2022 16th Annual National Indie Excellence Awards Finalist in Multicultural Non-Fiction 2022 Next Generation Indie Book Awards Finalist in Memoirs (Other) and Social Justice 2022 Eric Hoffer First Horizon Book Awards Grand Prize Finalist 2022 Eric Hoffer Book Awards Honorable Mention in Memoir 2022 Nonfiction Authors Association Awards Gold Winner in Multicultural Nonfiction 2022 Nautilus Book Awards Silver Winner in Memoir/Large Publisher 2021 Best Book Awards Finalist in Multicultural: Nonfiction A Notable 100 Book in the 2021 Shelf Unbound Best Indie Book Competition 2021 Hearten Book Awards Finalist 2021 Firebird Book Awards First Place Winner in Multicultural Non-Fiction 2021 Firebird Book Awards Second Place Winner in Memoir “This tender and evocative story about friendship across racial and class lines is told with unflagging honesty and is an important guide for living in this time of racial reckoning.” —Catherine Whitmire, author of Practicing Peace: A Devotional Walk through the Quaker Tradition and Plain Living: A Quaker Path to Simplicity “The politics are crystal clear at all levels, the characters are fascinating and it’s a superb read! Sanford presents the humanity of the characters, in all their contradictoriness, while remaining unrelenting in her condemnation of systemic racial and class violence. White people are all complicit in racism, and all responsible for taking it down, relationship by relationship. This memoir shows how tortuous and slippery that is . . . and yet, between humans who will recognize one another as such, always possible.” —James Seale-Collazo, Faculty, Escuela Secondaria, University of Puerto Rico “This is powerful book with an important lesson that we all must learn in trying to understand others—a book that both blacks and whites should read so that we can enter into a productive dialogue with each other.” —Rev. John Reynolds, author of The Fight for Freedom “A compelling take on how our personal experiences of racism arise from the history and structures of white supremacy, and an emotional glimpse into a lifetime anti-racism journey. Non-profit board members, government leaders, and executives from all sectors will be transformed by Wendy’s journey and her painfully earned pearls of wisdom in her effort to become an anti-racist white person.” —Sue Gallagher, EdD, Chief Innovation Officer, Children’s Services Council of Broward County, FL “I found These Walls Between Us very informative, especially the way the author deconstructs the subtle and overt ways that white privilege influences the lives of so many. White privilege is like an invisible thread that maintains the status quo. Thank goodness Wendy Sanford is doing the work that only she can do!” —Byllye Avery, MacArthur Genius Grant Winner, Founder, Black Women's Health Impera