God Has a Purpose for Your Family   Turnaround at Home is a guide to creating a God-honoring home for your kids, no matter what model you had as you grew up. Drawing from their own inspiring stories, the authors:   Help you understand your emotional, spiritual, and social background   Give biblical encouragement for creating positive cycles in marriage and parenting   Offer 50 practical ideas for becoming intentional as couples, parents of young children, parents of teens, and grandparents   Family patterns can be renewed in your generation. Turnaround at Home will help you make changes for good—starting at home. Jack and Lisa Hibbs founded Calvary Chapel Chino Hills, which now ministers to thousands of people each week. Jack hosts a worldwide radio broadcast encouraging listeners to develop a Biblical worldview that is practical both in and out of the home. Jack and Lisa have two married daughters, two grandchildren and live in southern California.   Kurt Bruner is a best-selling author and former Vice President with Focus on the Family. He now serves as the pastor of spiritual formation at Lake Pointe Church near Dallas, Texas and hosts DriveFaithHome.com to help church leaders create a culture of intentional families. Kurt and his wife, Olivia, have four children.  TURNAROUND AT HOME GIVING A STRONGER SPIRITUAL LEGACY THAN YOU RECEIVED By Jack Hibbs, Lisa Hibbs, Kurt Bruner David C. Cook Copyright © 2013 Jack Hibbs, Lisa Hibbs, and Kurt Bruner All rights reserved. ISBN: 978-0-7814-1031-1 Contents Cover, Author's Note, Foreword: Chuck Smith, Chapter One: Turnaround, Chapter Two: Jack's Heritage, Chapter Three: Lisa's Heritage, Chapter Four: Your Heritage, Chapter Five: Your Spiritual Legacy, Chapter Six: Your Emotional Legacy, Chapter Seven: Your Social Legacy, Chapter Eight: Giving Better Than You Received, Chapter Nine: Turnaround Toolboxes, Chapter Ten: A Word to Pastors, Appendix: A Movement of Turnaround Churches by Kurt Bruner, Extras, CHAPTER 1 Turnaround I lay the sins of the parents upon their children; the entire family is affected—even children in the third and fourth generations of those who reject me. But I lavish unfailing love for a thousand generations on those who love me and obey my commands. Deuteronomy 5:9b–10 (NLT) When Dave proposed to Stephanie, only four hours had passed since they first met on the beautiful East Coast seaboard. Soon their whirlwind romance brought them across the country, landing them briefly in Las Vegas for their wedding. Stephanie was pregnant with their first child, and Dave had only recently been discharged from the military. Dave's dog tag read Catholic while Stephanie's confusing background blended a bit of exuberant Pentecostal with reserved Baptist. Neither, however, knew the first thing about raising a child or what a healthy, God-fearing household actually looked like. When Dave was in the third grade, his parents divorced. Before that, they spent most of their days yelling and screaming at each other. Dave was so devastated by their breakup that, as a young man, he made a solemn vow: when he had children of his own, he would never put them through the same pain that he had experienced. Unfortunately, his parents provided him a poor example of how to avoid ruining his own future relationships. In fact, the best counsel he could remember receiving from his father was when he told Dave never to get any girls pregnant as he handed over a box of condoms. Stephanie, on the other hand, grew up in the Bible Belt, where the fear of the Lord was ever present—but a strong, healthy understanding of God's Word was not. Her father had been killed in prison when she was a young girl, which forced her, her mother, and her two siblings to move in with her grandmother and step-grandfather. It was there that her step-grandfather began to sexually abuse her between the ages of five and nine. Her grandmother, completely unaware of the abuse, constantly reinforced to Stephanie that she would go to hell if she ever had sex before getting married. On the other hand, her mother began taking her to clubs by the age of seventeen, encouraging her that it was important to sleep with a guy before she married him to make sure that everything would work out—no doubt a very mixed message for a young, impressionable girl. After Stephanie married Dave, she made a vow the same way Dave had when his parents divorced: to end the cycle of abuse and pain she'd endured. She was determined to give her children something better than she had been given as a child. The problem? She had absolutely no clue what that would look like. And Dave was no help. He became an alcoholic, partying often with his friends and eventually cheating on Stephanie. Within a few short years, their marriage was in shambles and headed straight for divorce, dooming each of them to break their respective promises. And the ones who would pay the p