The disruption of strong emotions can feel jarring. It can feel like you're coming unglued...but you can learn how make your emotions work for instead of against you. New York Times bestselling author Lysa TerKeurst admits that she knows what it feels like to praise God one minute and in the next yell and scream at her child. She, too, wonders why she can't always be serene and control her reactions. In this six-session video Bible study (DVD/digital video sold separately), learn how to process emotions and resolve conflicts in ways that lead to wisdom, composure, and a more peaceful life. Filled with honest personal examples and biblical teaching, the Unglued Participant's Guide will equip you to know with confidence how to: Resolve conflict with wisdom and patience. - Learn how to balance honesty and kindness when personally offended. - Identify what type of reactor you are and how to improve your communication with others. - Respond without regrets by managing your tendencies to shut down or explode. Sessions include: Grace for the Unglued - Freedom for the Unglued - Four Kinds of Unglued - A Procedure Manual for the Unglued - Lingering Words for the Unglued - Imperfect Progress for the Unglued Gain a deep sense of calm by responding to situations out of your control without acting out of control. Designed for use with the Unglued Video Study (sold separately). Lysa TerKeurst is president and chief visionary officer of Proverbs 31 Ministries and the author of seven New York Times bestsellers, including I Want to Trust You, But I Don't , Good Boundaries and Goodbyes , Forgiving What You Can't Forget , and It's Not Supposed to Be This Way . She enjoys life with her husband Chaz and her kids and grandkids. Connect with her at www.LysaTerKeurst.com or on social media @LysaTerKeurst. Unglued Participant's Guide By Lysa TerKeurst Zondervan Copyright © 2012 Lysa TerKeurst All right reserved. ISBN: 978-0-310-89215-1 Contents About the Study..................................................7How to Use This Guide............................................9SESSION 1 Grace for the Unglued..................................11SESSION 2 Freedom for the Unglued................................41SESSION 3 Four Kinds of Unglued..................................73SESSION 4 A Procedure Manual for the Unglued.....................105SESSION 5 Lingering Words for the Unglued........................135SESSION 6 imperfect Progress for the Unglued.....................165 Chapter One SESSION 1 Grace for the Unglued Welcome! Welcome to session 1 of Unglued . If this is your first time together as a group, take a moment to introduce yourselves to each other before watching the video. Then let's get started! Video: Grace for the Unglued (18 MINUTES) Play the video segment for session 1. As you watch, use the outline (pages 11–13) to follow along or to take notes on anything that stands out to you. Notes Raw emotions—anger, frustration, bitterness, resentment—are the feelings we tend to hide from people we want to impress but spew on those we love the most. Feelings should be indicators, not dictators. Our goal in this study isn't to be perfect. Our goal is to make imperfect progress. Joshua had to settle a crucial question (Joshua 6:1–5). "Now when Joshua was near Jericho, he looked up and saw a man standing in front of him with a drawn sword in his hand. Joshua went up to him and asked, `Are you for us or for our enemies?'" (Joshua 5:13). Joshua is talking to the presence of God. God's response to Joshua's question: "neither" (Joshua 5:14a). Joshua was asking the wrong question. The crucial question Joshua needed to settle was, "Joshua, whose side are you on?" Joshua settled that question and it gave him the courage to face his wall of impossibility. We must settle this question as well. In our unglued situations, are we going to be on God's side or not? How to remain on God's side: "May the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be pleasing in your sight, O Lord, my Rock and my Redeemer" (Psalm 19:14, NIV 1984). Ask yourself: What words am I speaking about this person? What thoughts am I having about this person? 1. Use truth. 2. Use self-control. 3. Use prayer. Group Discussion Video Debrief (5 MINUTES) If your group meets for two hours, allow 10 minutes for this discussion. 1. What part of the video teaching had the most impact on you? From Raw Reactions to Imperfect Progress (10 MINUTES) If your group meets for two hours, allow 20 minutes for this discussion. 2. Which of the following animals best characterizes how you tend to respond when you are in an unglued situation? Share the reasons for your response. Wounded bear : I am hurt and unpredictable, so watch out. Agitated skunk : I may or may not create a stink, but the threat is always there. Deceptive peacock : Who me? I'm not upset. Look at all my pretty feather