Ever wonder how the great flirts do it? How they manage to attract a man's attention, even in the distracting setting of a crowded bar? And then, once they've got it, how they keep him focused? The people standing behind the bar watch this game play out night after night. Now, two of the best in the business, Dushan Zaric and Jason Kosmas, are ready to spill all the secrets of the hookup game. In this groundbreaking book, they tell women everything they need to know to pick up men (the right men). A good bartender doesn't just know how to mix drinks -- he knows how to read people, too. Dushan and Jason have witnessed every kind of hookup (and screwup) you can imagine. They know who is going to send over a drink before he even thinks of it. They can tell if a man's a bully, a loser, or gay as soon as he walks in the door. Most of all, they know what women have to do to make guys want to get their number. Drawing on their own observations as well as surveys of their patrons, Dushan and Jason show women what men are really thinking and how to use that information to their advantage. They provide step-by-step advice on everything from how to approach a guy to how to tell if he's worth it, and how to make an exit if he's not. Filled with street smarts, bar lore, and, of course, delicious cocktail recipes, You Didn't Hear It from Us is ultimately about more than dating -- it's about learning how to present the best parts of yourself, thus making the world your martini glass. "A fun, witty, and refreshingly honest read about the never-ending battle of the sexes, allowing female readers to spy on the opposition. I recommend it over a Long Island Iced Tea!" -- Sherry Argov, author of the New York Times bestseller Why Men Marry Bitches " You Didn't Hear It from Us is a cool, refreshing dating book with a twist. Bartenders really do see it all when it comes to dating, and Dushan and Jason are willing to share the inside scoop -- everything that a guy is thinking when he meets you but he won't tell you! (And you'll learn to make a mean martini, too.)" -- Nancy Slotnick, Love Coach of Cablight.com and author of Turn Your Cablight On: Get Your Dream Man in 6 Months or Less Dushan Zaric and Jason Kosmas have almost thirty years of bartending experience between them. They are the owners of Employees Only, the hottest classic cocktail bar in Manhattan's West Village, and the founders of Cocktail Conceptions, a consulting company whose high-profile clients include the Westin Hotels & Resorts, Absolut, and Moët Hennessy. Please visit their website at www.youdidnthearitfromus.com. Dushan Zaric and Jason Kosmas have almost thirty years of bartending experience between them. They are the owners of Employees Only, the hottest classic cocktail bar in Manhattan's West Village, and the founders of Cocktail Conceptions, a consulting company whose high-profile clients include the Westin Hotels & Resorts, Absolut, and Moët Hennessy. Please visit their website at www.youdidnthearitfromus.com. TRUTH ONE You Can Use Your Insecurity to Your Advantage It always makes us laugh when women confide in us, "I'm so uncomfortable in a bar. My friends seem so at ease, but I can't quite figure it out." We're laughing with compassion, because we know something our female clients don't: Everyone feels uncomfortable on first walking into a social situation. That's why so many people drink too much: to take the edge off the shyness. We don't know a single woman out there who doesn't experience nights of feeling shy, or unattractive, or like the only fraud in the room who's faking it while everyone else seems to naturally understand exactly what's going on. As one of our women friends said the other night, "It's like everyone else has gotten the rule book to life, and now Amazon.com is all sold out." Sure, some people are more comfortable than others in a social setting, but no one, and we mean no one , is comfortable going to a bar and looking for love. Going out with your friends to grab a drink? Of course. Visiting your local bartending friend to catch up? Absolutely. But there isn't a woman or man out there who walks into a public place hoping to attract attention who isn't also worried about not getting any at all, or worse, about getting the wrong kind. That someone will have the power to look into their deepest soul, and in the time it takes to finish off a beer, see everything that's wrong with them. But here's a newsflash, and it's a comforting one: Unless you sit there rocking back and forth on your bar stool having a conversation with your invisible friend while sucking your thumb, no one is going to think you're a loser. It's not going to occur to us , because we, your bartenders, are too busy working, and it's not going to occur to the men sitting there beside you, because they're too worried about their own insecurities. Plus, there are plenty of men who are interested in shy women, who find comfort in t